Tips for practising self-love on a daily basis
We all have hang-ups about ourselves and this can also run into our business too. The art is to practice self love and do this daily so that it has an impact on our lives and business. When we practice self love daily we create new habits and neural pathways in our brains that make it automatic to take care of ourselves and love ourselves at the core. When we peel back the layers of self love it runs through everything that we do and certainly into self care.
We must honour our energy and care for ourselves, the most important thing about being such a high achieving women is to honour ourselves and love ourselves as if we love our children. When we put ourselves first we have more to give to others. When we fill our cups first and honour our mind, energy and thoughts we become our own best friend and this is one of the key essentials to really standing in our power and achieving success on every level.
Self love should be the first and foremost focus in life, because from that stems the very being of your actions, behaviours and communication with yourself, others and in your business. Your business is an extension of you and the energy you bring to the table after knuckling down on self love and getting it right will literally shine your light into the world and allow you to have the impact you desire.
What is self love?
As a Neuro-Linguistic Programming expert and coach who has trained many others to coach and support people with mindset and self love, I believe that self love is the art of loving ourselves from the core. Knowing that happiness comes from within, and having an inner knowing that we are enough. Through self care practices we can develop this inner knowing of being enough, and allow this to run through our success at every level.
Here are 3 ways I suggest you practice self love;
1. Remind yourself, you are enough.
Each day we see so many marketing messages and we are filled with information from all over. From the moment we wake up to the moment we go to sleep. All of this information is filtered through our senses, we see so much information and hear so much daily. The news, constant marketing messages which tell us we must buy something so that we have enough, being aware of these things and how they play a part in our mindset is key because if we are not careful they will begin to program us to think we are not enough, we don’t have enough and that we need to obtain more to have enough.
We see billions of bits of information each day and our brains need to work out which bits of information to pay attention to. If you don’t consciously program your mind to believe you are already enough then you could end up believing that you need to obtain things outside of yourself to feel like you are enough. This is a receipt for disaster as you will never truly feel enough if you keep trying to fill yourself outside of yourself. This is why so many very successful entrepreneurs are not happy.
2. Tell yourself you are beautiful
Wake up each morning and look in the mirror at the badass you are and tell yourself you are beautiful, congratulate yourself on how far you have come and all your successes so far.
Not that long ago I was getting ready to go and deliver this talk. I was wearing this new dress I had bought and some trainers I had treated myself to for my birthday. Not gonna lie, I love this dress, but it does kinda resemble a tea towel, and the trainers, well they are so comfy and I love them too! But I did feel a bit like I wasn’t sure what other people were going to think of me, especially my husband, who isn’t shy to tell me what he thinks. I’d done my hair, make-up and I was wearing this outfit but I must also admit that I did feel a little self-conscious. I come down the stairs feeling good, hoping my husband is going to turn look at me and tell me I look beautiful but he doesn’t, he actually doesn’t even look at me. Instantly I feel myself have this feeling of shame and I almost tell myself that the voice inside my head was right… that I looked a bit stupid. In less than a split second I look at the circumstances, my husband is sorting out the kids and pulling tea out of the oven, whilst the girls are being pretty noisy asking where tea is… he is busy! The me a few years ago would have gone and got changed, felt even worse and then felt shame and empty I have come so far from that girl. Instead, I looked at the actual facts, my poor husband was just busy, he didn’t have the chance to look up at me. So instead, I told myself I am beautiful, I reminded myself that I really like my dress and my trainers are freaking comfy so it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks anyway – my tribe will vibe with me!
3. Activate your inner light.
Pay attention to the area just below your belly button, notice a small light shining in a circle. This light is love, imagine this light shining out into the world and all around you. Feel the feelings and have an inner knowing that you are right where you need to be right now, and you have so much potential inside of you that will come with flow and grace just as it should and right when it’s needed. This will enable you to ground yourself and hold your energy within, giving your energy the love it needs to carry you through the day and in challenging situations.
4. Place your hand on your heart and ask yourself ‘Who am I?’
Going back to number 1, we search outside of ourselves in an attempt to give ourselves meaning. When we come back into ourselves and really check in with us and who we are the whole world shifts around us, including the way we think, feel and the way we show up in the world. Place your hand on your heart, take a few deep breaths, and ask yourself ‘who am I?’ don’t expect anything to come up, just sit and listen to the beating of your heart and the sound of your breath. You can do this for seconds, minutes or an hour. This helps us get out of our heads and into our heart, our heart always knows the answer.
5. Buy yourself flowers
Everyone loves flowers and it always makes us feel full of love. Don’t wait for anyone to buy them for you, buy yourself flowers. They don’t have to be expensive! You can pick up amazing flowers on your supermarket shop which will make you feel full of love and like smiling.
Rebecca is an #1 best selling Author, NLP Coach & Trainer, a mum to 2 girls and she teaches female entrepreneurs the art and science of Neuro-Linguistic Programming. You can get a free copy of Rebecca’s book The Females Handbook: Step into your Personal Potential by going to www.RebeccaLockwood.org.uk.
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