“Spend time with people who push you, demand the best from you, and are good for your mental and physical health.” – Lewis Howes
Most people have the desire to be apart of the in crowd at least sometime in their life. Some of us have experienced it, some of us have been on the outside looking in, but the ideal remains the same…
But instead of worrying about what others think of as the “in crowd”, why not focus on what we need to facilitate our own in crowd?
Humans are naturally social creatures. We thrive off of that interaction. So when it's not there, we suffer, sometimes without even knowing, and we look for it, sometimes finding it in the wrong places with the wrong people.
It's not about being a part of the “in crowd” as much as it's about surrounding yourself with your own in crowd.
What do I mean by this?
Well, have you ever heard the saying choose who you surround yourself with wisely because you become like the five people you’re around most often?
It's true. Think about it.
You start to sound alike, pick up each other’s common phrases and word choice, sometimes you might even start talking with a slight accent (guilty). Not on purpose of course, but naturally.
So if your subconscious does this without you even knowing, what do you think it does in terms of your psychology?
You may not even realize, but it's not just the words that others use that you pick up, it's their attitude, their outlook, their ambition even their drive.
All of these things will start to affect you, no matter how independent and self-aware you may be.
We are influenced by the people around us whether we like it or not.
That is why your own in crowd is so important.
And trust me, I know this firsthand.
If you surround yourself with someone who is uninspired, unmotivated, even pessimistic, that energy will start to rub off on you.
I found myself in a similar situation and woke up every day unhappy, without even realizing it.
It wasn't until I shifted the people that I surrounded myself with that I truly understood the effects, good or bad, that others can have on you.
The negative fuel negativity just as much as the positive brings forth positivity.
Okay so maybe now you’re ready to make some changes, but where do you begin?
Follow the three simple steps below to start making connections with people who will influence your life for the better!
- Make a list of things that you love as well as goals you’d like to achieve.
- Choose an item from the list above and plan an activity around it. For example, if you’ve always wanted to try yoga, plan a day to attend a class and block that time out in your calendar to actually go!
- Connect with at least ONE person in class and make a plan to hang out in the future.
Now you have a new friend, you’ve started a new goal and you’re on your way to connecting with people who have similar interests and hopefully who will influence you for the better
Creative Copywriter | Content Creator for Women Entrepreneurs + Success Coaches
Creative Writer | Content Creator With a background in communications, writing, and marketing, Nikki is the founder of Casey Copywriting, her own freelance copywriting business with a clientele consisting mainly of women entrepreneurs and success coaches killing it in their respective fields. In addition to freelancing, she loves her role as Director of Style with the leading digital platform for the boutique industry, The Boutique Hub. There she combines her love for style and writing while curating daily tips, fashion forecasts and building a digital community for fellow boutique fashion lovers. Her creativity knows no bounds as she continues to work on her debut novel along with big picture aspirations to one day create a creative and educational platform for young writers to help facilitate and develop their writing and assist in their published achievements.