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Are you a Ride or Die friend?
We’ve all heard the saying – ‘ride or die’. But what does it mean? How do you become a ride or die, friend?
Let’s defer to that well-renowned academic resource: Urban Dictionary
Ride or Die was originally a biker term meaning if you couldn't ride you'd rather die. It has now changed to mean anyone (wife, boyfriend, best friend), that you will “ride” ANY problems out with them or “die” trying.
Well, that’s pretty heavy! We’re not talking about a pal that you occasionally grab coffee with. We’re not talking shopping buddies, teammates or even colleagues.
We’re talking 2 am phone calls, mental breakdowns, hospital trips, packing up your ex’s shit after he cheated, walking hand in hand into a funeral. Deep huh?
Let me give you some examples IRL:
You find out your boyfriend’s cheated on you. You live together. You just can’t face throwing his shit out on your own. You’ve cried every night for weeks and lost a stone – it’s just got too much. Without you even asking, your 3 besties descend on your house from various corners of the country. Armed with black bin bags and champagne, they unceremoniously throw his stuff into bags, allowing you to run around the house in your pants, drinking copiously.
In the weeks before, you call your friend every single night. Drunk and/or crying. She answers every time and talks to you until you’re calm enough to go to sleep.
You come up with a hundred ridiculous business ideas. Constantly asking your friend to support you. She does. She comments on your projects on social media, she tells people about them. She lets you know what she thinks. Every time she calls, she asks ‘what's been going on recently? Any new business goss for me?'.
You look after their children, you get them a tampon on their wedding day, you hold their hair back whilst they're sick and shout at them when they try to self-destruct.
This is what it means to be a ride or die, friend. Dinners out and coffee mornings aren’t what you think of when you think of them. You associate them with hysterical tears or rib-cracking laughter. So much more than an air-kiss and ‘how are you’ text.
I’d give an organ for my ride or die friends. A couple of them have quite literally talked me off the edge. We’ve fought, we’ve loved, we’ve lost and we’ve mourned together – and yet, I wouldn’t change a f*cking thing.
Keep these people in your life because as a BossBabe or women trying to stake it out on their own these are the people that will make your world incredible and support you through whatever it is that you do.