First of all, I’m sorry. I’m so sorry for the pain this setback is causing you. Listen, you’re not going to be able to remember all of this every single minute of every single day. Not yet, anyway. You might not even be in a place to hear it, yet. That’s okay. Just read it when you’re feeling ready. Just do your best with the bits and pieces. It will get easier. I don’t know when. But I know it will. Because you are resilient and strong and you are an effing survivor. You will rise.
Be gentle with yourself
It’s okay that you need to take a minute. Take as many damn minutes as you need. Don’t be afraid of the turning hands of the clock. No need for comparisons. Your timeline and your path are yours alone. Just breathe.
Please don’t speak ill of yourself. Don’t cloud your beautiful mind with personal attacks of why this setback happened. It’s not personal. It never is. What would you say to your best friend? Say that. Lay your head on your pillow at night and be proud of the woman you are.
Of the way, you choose to live your life.
Of the way you love others.
Because nothing else is really as important as that.
Do not let this setback take your fearlessness away. Keep dreaming. Keep pursuing those dreams. Don’t you dare stop wearing your heart on your sleeve and telling others how much they mean to you. There is so much power in not only feeling your feelings but sharing them with others. Continue to consciously choose every day to wake up and live in a world of optimism and possibility with your head held high. Beautiful things are born from vulnerability. Make your mark by not holding back. Even though what’s happened to you has left some bruising. You’re not broken. You will heal. And the world still needs you.
Do remember how beautiful this life is. Appreciate it. Even celebrate it when you’re ready. Move your amazing body. Spoil yourself with something you’ve been wanting to do. Create beautiful experiences for yourself every single day. A delicious meal, a soak in the tub, memory making with someone you love. You have so many things to be grateful for.
Setback for the win
Be grateful for the bumps in the road. If everything were easy, you wouldn’t be learning all these valuable lessons. This BS is making you better. I know it’s cliche, but everything does happen for a reason. Bigger and better things are coming your way. Be open to them. Trust in something bigger than yourself. You are resilient and strong and you’ve been given the opportunity to start over and design the life of your dreams. So say thank you. Take extra good care of yourself. And then, when you’re ready, be prepared to surprise the hell out of yourself.