The entrepreneurial journey is not for the faint of heart, that much is already known. But what about those of us who share this ambitious lifestyle with someone else? Building a business is no small feat. Neither is harmoniously intertwining romantic relationships with your goals (especially with a non-entrepreneur). Here are three secrets to managing a relationship while building a business.
- Communication is King
As the saying goes, “content is king.” While it’s true that the content you create today could be the reason your business grows into an empire later, your relationship doesn’t work the same way, especially if your partner isn’t a part of the entrepreneurial world. There are going to be many things your partner won’t understand – at first. But give them a chance by always keeping an open line of communication.
Implementation: Create weekly/monthly check-ins with your partner where you give them a quick run-down of your short-term and long-term goals. Remember, your partner isn’t a mind reader. While they don’t need to know which email subscriber you’re using to build your email list, letting them know that you’re working on creating an asset that’s important to your business is something they can get behind and support you in.
- Take Time Off
Look, Gary Vaynerchuk is a major proponent of #TeamNoDaysOff, but even while running a $150-million company he sets aside time every weekend to spend quality time for his wife and children. So what’s your excuse? Taking time off in general is good self-care practice, but stepping away from the computer and putting your phone down so that you’re one hundred percent present with your partner is key to keeping and creating true intimacy. If you truly cannot step away from your business – even for a day – then it’s time to think about and build systems in your business so that it can run smoothly without you having to be there 24/7. Otherwise, what makes it any different than a j-o-b?
Implementation: It’s statistically proven that human are happier when they have something to look forward to, so schedule weekly/monthly “date days/nights.” Of course, this is harder to accomplish with children, but why not create weekly family nights? It could be as simple as actually cooking dinner together. It could be letting the kids choose a movie and just spending that time together. When was the last time you sat down and ate together as a family?
- Actually Choosing the Right Partner
So many of us are with people who, even after communicating and spending quality time together, still cannot support us. And that’s okay. If your partner is constantly and consistently taking jabs at your dreams and goals, if they are always complaining or negative – no amount of communicating or quality time is going to change them. It’s time to let them go and prosper.
Implementation: Take a moment to sit down and evaluate the pros and cons of your relationship. Do you actually feel supported? Or are you feeling obligated to stay because of certain circumstances (i.e children, financial, etc)? What steps can you take today towards creating freedom from an unsupportive partner? Remember: it’s okay to ask for help. Leaving a long-term relationship, especially when you’ve built entire lives together, is hard. But not impossible.
All in all, communicate constantly with your partner about your goals. Set aside quality time to build intimacy. Actually, make sure we’re with the right partner. All of these are keys to managing a relationship while trying to build a business. When you’re in a healthy, supportive relationship it can make you feel like you can conquer anything – in business and in life.